Are you neglecting this important social skill?

In the last few decades the speed of society and power of technology has caused millions and millions of people to abandon an important social skill. In this age of ever increasing isolation and loneliness there is one social skill that can build real and meaningful relationships with those we care about.

What social skill were many of us taught as children and which we in turn have not taught our children?
What pleasure are we denying our children because we have abandoned this skill?
What social skill have we ignored because it is inconvenient? Because it takes time? Because it costs more than an email?

As I’ve matured I have realized the many joys I have experienced and that millions of people have never experienced. One of the things that is nearest and dearest to my heart is sending and receiving letters in the mail. I was in the navy for twelve years and when I was at sea mail call was one of my favourite things. The simple pleasure of a card or letter could turn an stormy mental attitude into a sea of tranquility.

Yes, email is faster. Yes, email is cheaper. But does email evoke an emotional response? Can you put an email in your pocket to read and then reread later? (I know you can print an email but do you?)

According to Gmail I have 4,366 unread email in my inbox. Most are actually subscriptions that I never seem to get a chance to read. If they were printed I would have read them as soon as I could.

If you want to build relationships with meaning write a letter or send a card.

If you want to show someone going through a hard time write a letter or send a card.

If you want to tell someone you care write a letter or send a card.

If you want to show true gratitude send a letter or card.

Don’t let “Cost” or “Speed” or “Convenience” stop you from sending something real to someone.

I find when I write a letter I am more aware of what I am writing than when I send an email. In my mind it feels like email are relegated to work or “just the facts”. Letters allow me to share thoughts and feelings as well as facts. Receiving letters or cards is a real experience and makes people feel valued.

Sadly, I am beginning to think that writing letters is a lost social skill and believe that society is worse for the loss.

Help revive this important social skill. Help bring it back from the edge of extinction. Send someone a card or letter in the mail. Even just a few words is better than nothing.

Letter in the mail
I got a letter!

Stay tuned because I still have more to say on this topic.

The New England Patriots Lost a Fan!

I ashamed of the New England Patriots.

I believe that until the investigation into the rape allegations against Antonio Brown are resolved he should not be playing football.

I cannot support a team that supports a public figure accused of rape.

I am no longer a fan and will trash all my Patriots gear.

Shame on the management and owners of the New England Patriots. Money has won out over decency.

Mark your calendars with these dates…

Hey, I hope all is well. Here it is July 3rd already. As many of you know I love greeting cards. I missed getting the June dates out and apologize for that. Here are a number of reasons to send a greeting card in July.

Standard reasons to send a greeting card in July:
New house
New baby
To stay in touch

But let’s kick it up a notch and send cards for the following days:

July 2019 Daily Holidays, Special and Wacky Days:

Reasons to Send Cards All July long
Dog Days of Summer – July 3 – August 11
National Blueberry Month
National Anti-Boredom Month
Unlucky Month for weddings
National Cell Phone Courtesy Month
 National Hot Dog Month
National Ice Cream Month
National Picnic Month
Weekly Reasons:
Week 2 – Nude Recreation Week
 Week 3 – Capture the Sunset Week
Date July 2019 Daily Holidays, Special and Wacky Days:
1 Canada Day / Dominion Day
1 Creative Ice Cream Flavors Day
1  International Chicken Wing Day
1 International Joke Day
2 I Forgot Day
2 World UFO Day
3 Compliment Your Mirror Day
3 Disobedience Day
3 Eat Beans Day
3 Stay  out of the Sun Day
4 ndependence Day (U.S.)
4 National Country Music Day
4 Sidewalk Egg Frying Day
5 National Apple Turnover Day
5 National Bikini Day
5 Work-a-holics Day  International Kissing Day
6 International Kissing Day
6 International Cherry Pit Spitting Day
6 National Fried Chicken Day
7 Build A Scarecrow Day
7 Chocolate Day
7 National Strawberry Sundae Day
8 Body Painting Day
8 National Blueberry Day
8 Video Games Day
9 National Sugar Cookie Day
10 Pick Blueberries Day
10 Teddy Bear Picnic Day
11 Cheer up the Lonely Day
11 National Blueberry Muffins Day
11 World Population Day
12 Different Colored Eyes Day
12  Pecan Pie Day
13 Barbershop Music Appreciation Day
13 Embrace Your Geekness Day
13 Fool’s Paradise Day
13 riday the 13th
13 National French Fries Day
14 Bastille Day
14 Pandemonium Day
14 14 National Nude Day 
14 Shark Awareness Day
15 Be a Dork Day
15 Cow Appreciation Day
15 Global Hug Your Kids Day
15 Tapioca Pudding Day
16 Fresh Spinach Day
16 World Snake Day
17 National Hot Dog Day
17 Peach Ice Cream Day
17 World Emoji Day
17 Yellow Pig Day
18 National Caviar Day
19 National Daiquiri Day
19 National Raspberry Cake Day
20 National Ice Cream Soda Day
20 National Lollipop Day
20 Moon Day
20 Ugly Truck Day
21 National Ice Cream Day
21 National Junk Food Day
22 Hammock Day
22 Ratcatcher’s Day
23 Vanilla Ice Cream Day
24 Amelia Earhart Day
24 Cousins Day
24 National Tequila Day
24 Tell an Old Joke Day
25 Culinarians Day
25 Threading the Needle Day
26 All or Nothing Day
26 Aunt and Uncle Day
26 System Administrator Appreciation Day
27 National Day of the Cowboy
27 Take Your Houseplants for a Walk
27 Take Your Pants for a Walk Day
28 National Milk Chocolate Day
28 Parent’s Day
29 Interntional Tiger Day
29 National Chicken Wing Day
29 National Lasagna Day
30 National Cheesecake Day
30 Father-in-Law Day
30 International Day of Friendship
31 Mutt’s Day

1 Canada Day / Dominion Day

  1. Creative Ice Cream Flavors Day 1 International Chicken Wing Day 1 International Joke Day
  2. I Forgot Day

3 Eat Beans Day

13 Fool’s Paradise Day 13 Friday the 13th

  1. National French Fries Day 14 Bastille Day
  2. Pandemonium Day 14 National Nude Day 14 Shark Awareness Day 15 Be a Dork Day
  3. Cow Appreciation Day– Go out and give a cow a hug
  4. Global Hug Your Kids Day – third Monday of the month 15 Tapioca Pudding Day
  5. Fresh Spinach Day
  1. World Snake Day
  1. National Hot Dog Day – third Wednesday in July 17 Peach Ice Cream Day
  2. World Emoji Day 17 Yellow Pig Day
  3. National Caviar Day– something’s fishy here 19 National Daiquiri Day
  4. National Raspberry Cake Day 20 National Ice Cream Soda Day 20 National Lollipop Day
  5. Moon Day
  6. Ugly Truck Day- it’s a “guy” thing

30 International Day of Friendship 31 Mutt’s Day

‘Twas the Month Before Christmas

My musings this week lead me to write my first Christmas poem.  The ending is a little week and the poem is still a work in progress. I hope you enjoy it and I welcome your feedback.


‘Twas the month before Christmas

Grammas and grandpas, uncles and aunts were planning with glee

Christmas gifts for under the tree

Skates for Suzie

An e-book for Ned

A dolly for Tasha

Maybe a tablet instead


Parcels were packed

Cards were signed

And Monday morning they woke to find

Their gift sending in a bind


No mail was moving

Not even an inch

The mail was frozen like the heart of a Grinch

The mail would not move by foot or by car

Not by plane or by train

Not by truck or by bike

The posties were on strike


They cried for benefits

For hours and pay

And in the warehouse the mail would stay

Until they got their way


A ruling was made up on the hill

To work the posties must go

So to work they show but ever so slow

No smaller do the mountains of parcels grow


Now brothers in arms

Block the way

Continuing the delay

The unions are holding our nation at bay


Caring not for sobs and sighs

Or the little one’s cries

Ruining Christmas for those far away

Alas what a sad day

Friday Musings… 30 November 2018

Random comments on thoughts, ideas, things seen, or things overheard .

Anybody who knows me and has read my blog before knows I LOVE Fridays. Happy Friday!

Do you ever feel housebound or stuck in an office? How do you deal with that feeling?

I work from home so for me the feeling is housebound.

Usually when it happens to me I get restless, have trouble focusing and even feel a little anxious.

Today I pulled myself together and went to a coffee shop. It worked at first but it is lunch time and the lunch crowd is rolling in. Students, people who work locally, friends meeting for lunch and the odd person (like me) working.

I enjoy the energy of the people around me but when the shrillness of the voices and the volume goes up as everybody tries to talk over everybody else it overwhelms me.

Since I sat down I was able to organize several writing projects, get some quotes out, follow up on some invoices, do some research and complete the rough draft of a project I started on. A very productive few hours but it’s time to go. I can hardly hear myself think and thinking is important when you make your living from converting thoughts to printed words.

In closing here is something to think about;

“The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter – ’tis the difference between the lightning-bug and the lightning.” Mark Twain

Until next time,

Newsletters… Have you seen the big change in them?

Newsletters… have you caught onto the big change in them?

I’ve noticed a big change in newsletters over the last year. I like it.

What change you may be asking?

The biggest change is that they are getting easier to read because they have less images.

At one time you couldn’t send a newsletter without loading it with pictures to entice people to read it. Now it appears that images are on the way out.


It could be that roughly 90 per cent of people read their email on a mobile device. Images slow that down and eat data.

It could be that people want real information and a real story instead of glitz and glam.

It could be the fact that more and more newsletters are ending up as in the spam bucket because mail servers don’t trust them.

As a writer and newsletter producer I like this change. I used to spend hours laying out images in newsletters and then testing the newsletter before sending it. Some clients wanted more images than content which made them hard to produce and very time consuming.

How will this change affect newsletters?

After careful consideration I can see two improvements to newsletters because of this change.

  1. Headlines will get better.
  2. Content will get better.

A good headline or title grabs your interest and makes you want to read more but a great headline or title won’t make up for lousy content.

Two of my favourite newsletters are text only. No images, great headlines, very few links and well written about things I am interested in. I did an experiment with a newsletter I read every week. It only takes me a few minutes to read and it always makes me think I copied it into a word document and counted the number of words.  I was surprised to see that it had over 1000 words in it. The word count did not include the disclaimer, the contact info or the author’s bio.

So to play on an irritating television commercial “What’s in your newsletter?”

Until next time,


(p.s. Have you ever thought of how a well written newsletter could help you earn referrals, grow your business and strengthen relationships?)

Lost and found…

It’s been a while since I posted anything.

Like the song says…”I was lost but now am found.”

I’ve done more writing than shows up here. I’ve written website content, an email marketing piece, built a bunch of websites, half written over a dozen poems, drilled away at a bunch of short stories and punched keys on the book I am writing.

The biggest thing I have been struggling with is the loss of motivation because I haven’t been out networking and building relationships.

A short while ago I discovered that as I became less and less busy I became less and less productive.

I realized I was lost…

but now I am found.

What does that mean?

It means I am writing again. I have written more in the last sixty days than I have in the four months before that.

In March after neck surgery I lost the use of my right arm. I have some use back but am still limited.

I have found different ways to do things that I was able to do without thinking.

I have learned to accept help when it was offered.

I have been humbled and then I turned that into self-humiliation felt worth less (yes two words because I didn’t feel worthless I felt that I was not as valuable or an asset).

I developed some very bad time wasting habits because I was so unlimited by time and had such a loss of self worth. Those bad habits took control and I would spend a great deal of time being non-productive.

But my creativity has never stopped. My mind still functions and when I use it it functions better. It takes a lot of stimulus and effort to break bad habits. I had to create the habit of creativity. I had to work a few minutes at a time to push away the time wasting habits and transform creative thoughts to production.

I was lost but now am found.

In other words I am back! I have a new attitude and a wonderful appreciation of writing.

I am going to keep develop the writing habit I had and make it a strong again.

Over the last few years I spent a great deal of time networking, building relationships, meeting people, trying to grow a business but during the last few months of isolation I realized (actually it should be admitted not realized) a few things. Here are some of them…

  1. Not many people like me. They don’t dislike me but I am not on their “Let’s go for a coffee,lunch, drink etc. list” I am a fount of useless knowledge that most people don’t care about.
  2. I am not a warm and cuddly personality. I am a bit reserved (some people say aloof) and not a good let alone a great conversationalist.
  3. I am an introvert. I enjoy being alone. I find it hard to be out and be social because I am terrible at keeping up with conversations and knowing the various things happening in the world that people talk about.
  4. I would rather spend three hours writing a paragraph until it conveyed the right message for a client than risk saying the wrong thing (thankfully the clients who hire me want the right message). I am better at project billing than hourly billing because if I went hourly my clients would think I was ripping them off by billing like a lawyer.
  5. Even though I like the knowledge of building a website I would rather just supply the content. (Sadly people value the look of a website more than the content. People see looks but serious buyers and search engines search content.)
  6. I am a “techie”. I love knowing about technical things and am fascinated by equipment, software, technology, anything electrical, energy saving, energy generation, and recycling just to name a few things. I bore people when I start to talk about these things.
  7. I enjoy writing about things and for clients where I have to learn about them and there products or services.

I was lost but now am found…

I am writing again. Stay tuned.

10 Letters to Success…

10 Letters to Success…

I like direct mail. I don’t mean flyers or brochures or coupons or booklets or any of those other things that we find in our mailbox every day. I mean letters; letters sent to me that have my name on them. I write letters every month and I am going to kick it up a notch for the rest of June. I am going to write 10 letters a day from June 9th until June 30th. My goal is to have my business booming by the end of June. What does that mean? It means I will have more clients and referral partners.

There are 22 days left in the month. At 10 letters a day that means 220 letters. Just the postage alone will be $187.00!

Does that sound expensive? I have a system that I use so that my total cost for stationary, envelopes and stamps will only be $127.00. (I have already sent 20 letters using this system this month and no matter how many letters I send my cost will not change.)

Does that sound time consuming? Think about it sitting down and writing 10 letters, printing the letters, stuffing them in an envelope, printing the address labels, putting the address labels on the envelopes, putting the stamp on the envelope and getting the letters to the mail box. It sounds like it would take a couple of hours. The system I use will do all that for me. I just have to write the letters, pick who I am sending it to and click a button and woosh… the letter will be on it’s way.

Starting June 18th I will share the results of my letter campaign. Why June 18th? I have to allow time to get the letters delivered.

How will I measure the results? I will tell  every person I write that I will call them on a certain at a certain time.

What is my goal for this mail campaign? To get permission to meet them for a coffee and a short conversation to show them my system either in person or on a Zoom call.

Are you up for a challenge?

Sit down with me, look at my system and give it a try. If you don’t like what you see, no problem.

When was the last time you received a personal letter in the mail?

Letter in the mailWhen was the last time you received a personal letter in the mail?

How did it make you feel?

When was the last time you sent a letter or card?

Sadly the world has jumped on board with email, texting, instant messaging and abandoned snail mail.

Do remember the pleasure of going to the mail box and getting something besides bills and flyers?

I have discovered that I enjoy writing letters. It is probably one of the nicest things I do for myself and other people. I am sad to admit that I didn’t do it often enough in the past. I can change that now.

I have been using a system for a few years that lets me send real cards in the mail. I get the pleasure of writing the card and knowing that the person I’m sending it to is getting a card in the mail. I didn’t use it as much as I wanted because I was limited by how much I had in my account every month. At the end of April that all changed! I can now send as many cards as I want for $97.00(USD) a month. If I only send one card a day that works out to $3.23(USD) per month based on 30 days. Now the fun part… if I send 2 cards a day it is only $1.62(USD). Every time I use the system I reduce my cost per card. AND THOSE PRICES INCLUDE POSTAGE! It is the best value I have seen for sending cards in the mail.

What a great way for everybody to be nice to people!

Send thank you cards to customers and clients.

Send thank you cards to referral partners.

Send nice to meet you cards.

Send birthday cards.

Send cards just to say hello.

Send cards to people you want to reconnect with.

Send get well cards.

Send cards just because you can.

And it gets even better…I sent in a sample of my handwriting to the company and now when I send a card I can choose my own handwriting as a font!

All this from an app on your phone.

I love this system so much that I promote it to business people as a great marketing tool and help other people get into the business themselves.

It’s easy, it’s fun and it’s affordable.

Want a free account or to learn more? Click here.

Thoughts on Social Media 5 May 2018

social media icons


“It’s so funny how social media was just this fun thing, and now it’s this monster that consumes so many millennial lives.‘ Cazzie David

“The more social media we have, the more we think we’re connecting, yet we are really disconnecting from each other.” JR

As I was adding the poetry page to my website I was thinking of some of the poems I had written and found one about social media.

I am not against social media. I have seen it help bring people together. I have seen it used to share important information.

My struggle with social media is how disconnected we are becoming. It appears that we are too busy to answer the phone, we are too busy to call a friend, we are too busy to go for a coffee with someone.

Here are a few stats on Facebook usage;


Active users as of June 30, 2017; there are 2 billion monthly active users and over 1 billion daily active users

Facebook time is decreasing and is down to an average of 35 minutes per day.

Facebook users check their page and average of 8 times a day.

It doesn’t sound like much but when you add the multitude of other social media platforms people check every day then social media time is a big part of each person’s day.

Here is a link to the page where I post my poems.  I wrote Social Media one day when I was feeling very disconnected from people.